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Help and support for men and their families who are in, or have been in, an abusive or violent relationship and don't know where to turn for help and advice.
A relationship break-up can be very stressful. Making what would usually be straightforward decisions can become almost impossible. Families and friends may become divided and if access to children is disrupted, feelings of being isolated and cut off can easily result.
Domestic Violence and Abuse, or Intimate Partner Violence, can lead to mental health problems. Depression is probably the most widely recognised result, but low self-esteem, anxiety, panic attacks, trauma, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and agoraphobia have also been identified.
While there are many services to help the female victim, there are very few available services for the male victim, pushing him into further isolation. To make matters worse, the male is so often reluctant to admit that he is a victim and to seek help. The ‘shame’ of not being a ‘man’, not being able to take care of himself, prevents him from speaking out.
A family break-up often means the father has severely interrupted access to his children or even all contact stopped, and this can cause deep emotional pain not only for the father, but also the children. The treatment from the Family Courts, CAFCASS and Social Services can often re-victimise and re-traumatise the male. The feelings of not being heard, not being believed, of being useless to help his children.
Counselling looks at what is happening for you and in you. It helps regain self-awareness and restore self-confidence. It does not give advice or tell you what to do. it works with you to help you find ways of achieving what you want, within the realms of realistic aims.
Counselling can be individual, couple or familiy (systemic). In cases where children are involved, it may be helpful to meet as a family group to explore the feelings of each member and work out ways of communicating with each other which will ease the transition to living apart. BUT, in cases of severe domestic violence this may not be an option, for safety reasons.
They say that time is the greater healer, but when there is no healing, it may be time to see a counsellor.
Please contact Men Have Rights Too for more information.
A small donation is requested for counselling services.